When Life Gives You Lemons.....Chuck Them at Someone!

Ok, the ceiling finally stopped leaking.  Oh, you didn't hear? Yah every room in our house was leaking. EVERY ROOM!!!! Ok, got that out of the way. So after  the day long frusterations and the tense silence in the house between me and the husband, we finally started talking. Stress makes both of us shut down, him more than me, but still. There was nothing we could do about any of it, the roofers were trying to finish the roof before they start repairs inside, the rental company agreed to get us a dehumidifier and bring in a carpet cleaning team, and the rain finally mellowed out to a drizzle. But when you are helpless and feel like you are trapped, you tense up. And become irritable. And snap at each other, then appologize, snap again, appologize and repeat. I got the big lesson at the end of the day when the roofers finally went home, and we decided to move the couch back into place because we simply could not take the clutter anymore.

Even in the midst of stress, it is so vital to keep the lines of love open. Fuck communication, anyone can talk to, yell at, or scream. Communication is worth absolutely zip if there is not an open heart and open love when talking with someone. Doesn't have to be your partner, it could be a co-worker, your friend, family member or the person down at the rental agenency (cough).  The husband and I definitely found ourselves reverting back to how we would handle stress back in Oklahoma, and while we recognized what was happening, we didn't quite know how to come through it yet. So silent hugs, quick back rubs, and giving the other person LOTS of space today was the coping mechanism.  By the end of the day we were exhausted from stress and my wonderful husband stepped up and made a lovely dinner of salad and mac and cheese (gotta love comfort food and fresh vegetables) and we mellowed out and talked a little about how we did and didn't handle things today. At least now we have improvement and it didn't take an all out brawl for us to see what the universe put in front to teach us. As my chief in F/A-18 "C" school would say, "learning has taken place." And boy it has.

I write this one, not to put out what goes on in my marriage but a "hey, this is a great example of what not to do" and take somehing away from it that can be used in every part of every day with every person you come across. After you get done throwing the lemons, what's left except a lot of bruises and black eyes (craver lol).  And make sure when doing the all important "communicating" you are doing the REALLY all important thing of keeping your self and your heart open and being present when that communication is taking place. Because otherwise, what the hell are you doing besides throwing those God Dammed Lemons?

Peace y'all and blessings all!